Whatta drag ....

“Let go or be dragged.” 

Sums up the connection to a narcissist. Also, any other personality-disordered soul. If you don't disconnect, they certainly won't. They'll stick around on the outskirts of your life for as long as they think you might talk to them again or leave the door cracked open. The door has to be completely shut. Glued, nailed, taped ... shut tight never to open again.

It’s easy to totally blame the narcissist, but the truth is we’re choosing to engage once we see the mask fall and the fakery arise. We are making a conscious choice to take on an impossible relationship with an impossible person who cannot think logically. They're thinking is disordered, chaotic, based on feeling alone, not fact. As adults we always have the choice to let go. Walk away.  We didn't break this, we can't fix it.  If this person hasn't taken control of their own life and chaos by now, why do you possibly think they will just for you?  Nothing personal, we're just not that important ... remember, it's not about you, it never was. It was all about them. All the time.

I took responsibility for throwing myself under the bus, hiked up my bog girl panties and lo! My angst began to lessen. Each new moment of each new day presents a fresh opportunity to make better choices and live a healthier, less chaotic, less drama fueled life. No more lies.